Day 19 - Seek Understanding
Proverbs 4:5-9 ESV
Get wisdom; get insight [understanding]; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth. Do not forsake her, and she will keep you; love her, and she will guard you. The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom, and whatever you get, get insight [understanding]. Prize her highly, and she will exalt you; she will honor you if you embrace her. She will place on your head a graceful garland; she will bestow on you a beautiful crown.
Make today the day that you seek understanding. Whether in a casual conversation or in a relationship; get understanding. So often we dismiss others because we don't understand them (how they think or why they do the things that they do.) Today, don't dismiss others. Don't make decisions based on what you "think" they should have done or said. What makes sense to you, may be foreign to them as well.
We are all shaped by our pasts and experiences in life and we all have taken different paths and have seen different things. When I was a young girl if my dad made a mistake or he upset me, he would usually not say "I'm sorry." One day my feelings were hurt and GOD said ...He can't and he did. I realized even as a child that when my dad changed his tone of voice and came to me saying...."Hey...daddy's girl is mad, huh?...." and he began to hug me and play around with me. He wasn't saying that he was ignoring that he upset me. He was acknowledging it and saying he was sorry in the only way he knew how. He eventually grew to a place where he would say he was sorry because I told him, one day that I needed him to. I told him how I felt when he didn't say the words. Although I knew it was hard for him, that I needed him to apologize when he was wrong. I still got the moments of giggly tones and hugs and playful banter (I actually grew to miss them when I didn't.) Yet, he made an effort to say the words more often.
I understood then, that love was not all black and white, but that it could be spoken in different languages, yet be understood by all. Get and give understanding today. It's not only a gift to the other person, but a gift to you also. Because you may find out some things you may not have otherwise ever known had you not taken the time to get understanding.