Saturday Sessions - kNOw Boundaries

kNOw Boundaries

Saying the word “NO” and having boundaries is often challenging when we believe the lie that by doing so, we are being selfish.  Requiring others to honor and respect you is not selfish, it is self-care.  Boundaries communicate to others what you are and are not willing to accept.  When we allow others to waste (take for granted) our time or to control our time, we are in essence saying to that individual that we are in agreement with their choice to disrespect us.

Boundaries are healthy and necessary.  We understand this about wild animals at the zoo.  The cage or fence that restricts the animals informs both the animal and the visitors of the park how far they should go.    Without these boundaries (fences/cages), the zoo would be in total and utter chaos.  Many of the predatory animals would feast on the weaker animals and possibly on the visitors to the park. 

Perhaps the stress and chaos you are experiencing emotionally is tied to your lack of boundaries.  Take some time and examine your relationships.  Take a look at the relationships that are causing you stress and consider these things.

·         Are my boundaries being crossed?

·         Have I properly communicated what my boundaries are?

·         When I allow boundaries to be crossed, what am I feeling at that moment?

·         Am I holding on tightly to something/someone whose season has expired?

These are just a few questions to get you on the right track to knowing and understanding boundaries and how they can benefit your life. 

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